Our Mysore Ajji

This Akshaya Tadige Ajji completed 105 years. She was sick for the past few months. It was heartbreaking knowing Ajji had left this world. Yes, Ajji left this materialistic world yesterday and joined her Husband, her daughters, her daughter-in-law and many of her extended family and friends.

This picture you are seeing was during my Dad’s 80th Shastiputhi function. The bond between Mom and Daughter is so very well seen in the picture below. 

I searched for so many pictures, but none conveyed the message I wanted to about our Ajji and the bond she shared with Mom and in turn us grandkids and great grandkids.

Ajji always laughed when I told her I had written about her in my blog, she would say what have I done to get this much love from you all. She loved when I read out your comments and told her about the blog.

Ajji was fierce, Ajji was a strong role model, Ajji was a fighter.

Ajji was our Iron Lady, and our dearest Mysore Ajji.

With all the challenges Ajji faced, her devotion towards God never wavered and we never heard her complain ever about God.

Ajji was the big banyan tree, we all took shelter under. 

Ajji was a great musician, from her we learnt all the songs, all stotras and all slokas.

Ajji was a great role model, who taught each one of us how to fight adversity we face in life.

Ajji was a guru to us, who taught us how to pray and count our blessings.

Ajji was a great cook, and taught me so many amazing madhwa dishes.

Ajji was a mother, grandmother and great grandmother and showed us how to navigate these roles brilliantly.

Ajji was a giver, and showed how each one of us could benefit from doing charity. 

Ajji showed us education matters, and even more so how women need to be independent. 

Ajji also showed even more than education, how culture matters and how we should be cultured. 

Ajji dealt with so many tough challenges, and she taught us how to keep swimming even when we face tough challenges.

Ajji will live with us forever with her songs, the things she taught us and her love.

The family lost a great woman who was the head of our family or in one word a matriarch. 

I can still taste the brinjal vangibath, Rubbida huli, Akki tari Upma and Ajji’s favorite Bonda. All I learnt from Ajji’s visit to my parents house or our visit to our Mama’s house.

WE LOVE YOU AJJI. WILL MISS YOU FOREVER.

P.S: The other post I wrote about our Ajji, you can read below:

23 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Kumudha on May 20, 2021 at 3:33 pm

    Meera, please accept my heartfelt condolences.

    Take care.

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  2. Posted by Nagaraj on May 20, 2021 at 7:18 am

    I hope it was not inappropriate for me to post the previous message in this column. If I have erred in doing so, my sincere apologies.

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  3. Posted by Nagaraj on May 20, 2021 at 7:13 am

    Heartfelt condolences to you! Your comments on that generation is so accurate.

    I lost both my mother and father in June and July of 2020. I was in the USA at the time and, as the first-born son, I felt crushed that I could not travel to India because of COVID restrictions and constraints. I could not perform their last rites. Mom was 88, and Dad was 95.

    Now I have traveled to India (Bangalore), after the vaccination. I am here in the midst of the peak of the second wave, and there are 11 families in my building inflicted with the virus. I want to perform my mother’s shraddha on May 31st at Udipi if I can.

    I do not know of any place/temple/person/ or priest in Udipi whom I can contact to perform the Shraddha in a reasonably clean environment. Can you or any of readers put me in touch with anyone in Udipi or guide me in this regard? I would be grateful. I can be reached via my USA phone number +1-609-902-0292 or the WhatsApp on that number

    Just FYI, while our family is affiliated with the Sringeri Mutt, we follow Bhagavatha Sampradayam – hence Madhwa traditions. However, I am not rigid about any particular denomination. I am looking for a priest who is knowledgeable and sincere.

    I would appreciate any help. Thank You

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    • Posted by meeraghu on May 20, 2021 at 9:20 am

      My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I have till today not overcome the loss of my Mother, and now Ajji. I can imagine your state. Rayaru give you and your family abundant strength to bear the loss and carry forward the legacy of your parents. I am not very familiar with anyone in India. It has been almost 26 years since I left. I will ask my Father and see if he knows anyone. Stay safe and may Rayaru give you strength.

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      • Posted by Nagaraj on May 20, 2021 at 9:53 am

        Thank you so much, Meera avare. In spite of your current situation you are/were willing to consider my request and take time to respond. May Rayaru continue to guide you and your family during this hour of your personal loss.

  4. Posted by Krishnarao Srinivasan on May 20, 2021 at 2:28 am

    Sorry to note Mysore Aji no more. A great soul at 105.

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  5. Madam, Heartfelt condolences. I think that your ajji, your beloved mother and my mother were exemplary. Nearly ten years back, once after my morning Sandhyaa Vandana (and probably Devara Pooje), I said, “I am tired. Let me take some rest” or something like that. My mother responded that we should not say that we are tired after completing Deva karmaas. I fondly remember her (13 May was her Shraddha day. I and my brother performed it).

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  6. Posted by SN DESHPANDE on May 18, 2021 at 6:43 am

    RIP… Very few people get to live more than a hundred years. And your Ajji is one of them. These old people are very strong by their willpower & they know how to maintain their body according to the changing seasons. We must learn to live like them taking lessons from their life.

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  7. Posted by Shanthi Sethuraman on May 18, 2021 at 5:17 am

    What a great woman Ajji, hope you should be role model of her and following and fulfilling her desires in the way how you learnt from her. Let her soul get peace by our prayer.

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  8. Dear Meera, Please accept my heartfelt condolences!

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  9. Posted by Vani on May 17, 2021 at 2:08 pm

    Ajji sounds like a wonderful person. May she rest in peace

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  10. Posted by DEEPA R RAGHAVENDRAN SHANTHA on May 17, 2021 at 1:50 pm

    Sorry about the loss. Very inspiring article.

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  11. Posted by Kavitha on May 17, 2021 at 1:41 pm

    Meera it’s so heartwarming to read this….the bond all of you share is exceptional and by being what you are today…it’s evident from where all that strength comes from…Kudos to Ajji for leading a life that left behind a beautiful path 🙏

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